It’s All About Our Worth

Wait just a moment while I get my passion box set up.

Okay. I’m ready.

It’s all about your worth.

Do you want me to say it again?

It’s all about YOUR worth!

I’m serious.

If you don’t know you are worthy — if you don’t believe you have value and that you matter simply because you exist — then the way you interpret your experiences becomes distorted.

Knowing you are worthy is a belief you hold about yourself. It’s an attitude that filters through your interpretations. It becomes the foundation upon which all your other thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are built.

If you don’t know you are worthy, you don’t feel okay about yourself.

And if you don’t feel okay, it’s highly likely that you feel faulty, bad, or worthless. It’s pretty hard to love yourself when you feel like that. It’s impossible to treat yourself with respect, let alone ask others to respect you.

In fact, when you don’t know you are worthy, you may even reject people who treat you with respect and dignity.

You most definitely won’t let anyone love you in a healthy and nurturing way.

And even if you do keep those people in your life, you may not let their love in. Instead, you will run the story that you don’t deserve it.

Internal Injustice

When you don’t know you are worthy, you create an internal injustice.

You treat yourself poorly.

You criticise yourself over the smallest things.

Your emotions can become all-consuming and overwhelming. Your life may be filled with drama, heartache, confusion, indecision, or poor decisions.

And all the powerlessness and helplessness you feel will feed back into your interpretations as evidence of why you were unworthy in the first place.

The Core Is Worth

Too many of us are trying to fix our feelings of being unlovable or trying to learn how to respect ourselves without ever working on the core of our existence — our sense of worth.

It really is all about our worth.

When you have a sense of worth, everything radiates out from that centre.

·       Your capacity to be resilient.

·       Your ability to give and receive love.

·       Your ability to set healthy, stable, respectful personal boundaries.

·       Your sense of personal power — the ability to act.

·       Your ability to self-assess.

·       And your ability to manage your thoughts and emotions so they are reflected in your behaviour.

The word “deserve” begins to drop out of your vocabulary.

You no longer need to earn the right to anything or gather evidence to prove you deserve something.

You already know you are worthy.

Everyone Is Innately Worthy

I hear people tell me all the time that it’s too hard to believe they are worthy.

But that’s just a belief — something created to explain why a specific event occurred.

It’s not the truth of who you are.

We are all innately worthy.

That means YOU are also innately worthy.

And the bonus?

You don’t have to do anything to be of value.

You just are.

This must not be confused with the idea of being a valuable member of society.

When we talk about someone being valuable in society, we are talking about contribution — service to others, the work you do, the way you treat others, or the family you are raising.

Those things are about what you do.

Your innate worth is not the same as the things you do.

A person who commits a terrible act — someone who molests a child, kills another person, or commits rape — has acted in ways that society rightly condemns.

The act is abhorrent, and we should never condone such behaviour. But that does not mean the person themselves is worthless. We cannot build a humane society if we invalidate the worth of any human being.

A democratic society has a legal system that imposes consequences on those who act in ways that harm others or undermine the wellbeing of society.

That is the appropriate place for wrongdoing to be addressed.

Every person on this planet — no matter what they do — has innate worth simply because they exist. If we all truly embraced our own worth, and recognised the worth of others, I believe we would live in a very different world.

So let me leave you with two questions:

What would change in your world if you accepted your innate worth?

And if you already have…

What changed in your life when you embraced it?