Saint Benedict’s first step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Become aware of why we act the way we act

·       Become aware of why we think what we think

·       Become aware of why we feel how we feel

·       Become aware of why we do what we do

·       Explore our fears, doubts, and insecurities, as well as our love, passion, desire, and will for what we want

Saint Benedict’s second step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Accept who we are and its impact on our own life and others

·       Learn that our will and desire does not dictate life here for us or others

·       Begin to share equally in joy, pleasure, hardships, and pain

·       Acknowledge our role in everything and acknowledge other’s role in everything as well

·       Step out of the drama and acknowledge ow we control ourselves and others through drama

Saint Benedict’s third step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Learn that we are not God; we don’t decide what is best for others and deem it so

·       Accept that we can’t control every even in our life

·       Learn to pray, talk to, and seek guidance from God, Spirit, a higher power, or all there is

·       Surrender our will to divine will

Saint Benedict’s fourth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Learn to be patient

·       Accept that we do not determine the timing of events

·       Learn the lesson that all things are as they should be in any given moment

·       Learn to endure hard times and still be happy

Saint Benedict’s fifth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Face our own imperfections and admit them to those we have hurt because of them

·       Do not seek forgiveness for our imperfections; merely accept our responsibility

·       Accept how others feel about our words, actions, and beliefs, and feel how human we really are

Saint Benedict’s sixth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Learn to be grateful for all we have, and let go of the desire for the best and biggest of everything

·       Find joy in the little things in life

·       Learn to value family and friends for who they are, without wanting them to change in ways we desire

Saint Benedict’s seventh step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       See ourselves as the smallest and most insignificant human being on the planet, and enjoy it for what it is

·       Embrace our powerlessness and free ourselves from the fear we will not survive

·       Stop taking everything personally

·       Accept that everything isn’t about us

·       Accept that ‘deserving’ is ego, and there is no such thing as deserving what we get – good, bad, or indifferent

Saint Benedict’s eighth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Learn that we are not alone, that we are not an island

·       Learn that we are not one individual stiving to succeed and conquer all others

·       Learn about love. There is no such thing as unconditional love because love is unconditional – anything less, and it is conditional love

·       Develop empathy and compassion for the human reality

Saint Benedict’s nineth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Learn not to advise others on their life

·       Learn to hold our tongue and listen with compassion

·       Even if we know a lot about a topic, practice not sharing this information as an expert

·       Stop idle chatter

·       Learn to be peaceful in thought, feeling, and actions

·       Develop a balance in our use of energy

Saint Benedict’s tenth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Stop dismissing things that matter to us and others

·       Stop making jokes at others expense or our own

·       Stop minimising ours and others hurts and pains

Saint Benedict’s eleventh step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Use fewer words when we speak

·       Only say what must be said

·       Speak softly, clearly, and concisely

·       Step out of the mindless storytelling and do not repeat rumours and untruths

·       Never gossip

Saint Benedict’s twelfth step in his twelve-step plan of humility when put into a modern context asks us to:

·       Be humility in body and heart – in all that is said or done

·       Surrender the need to be seen to be humble

·       Accept that we don’t define ourselves as humble, but others see us as humble in our words and actions